“Never hate your enemies. It affects your judgment.”
Some of the inspiration behind this post came from my interpenetration of two book (see below)
Enemies will aggregate around your skill and use odious power moves to downplay and discredit you. Enemies aren’t your worst threat, however, the real threat lies elsewhere.
Understand, keeping enemies around is a power move; their slippery words and power plays are gaining power, but not for them, for you.
You must disguise your real aim, be two-steps ahead, and deal cards that you control.
Never argue with them because words put you on the defensive, and when you try to explain yourself, your power is lost and your reputation is in question.
Power requires mastery over uncontrollable emotion and patience; when you react and pay attention to a tiny enemy, you appear tiny and petulant.
Realise, they want you to react, they are trying to force your hand, trying to distort your perception and words, all the while hammering cracks into your reputation.
Understand that when you display your talents to the world, you engender many feelings such as excitement and inspiration in some, but in others, resentment, envy, and other insecurities.
Never hate your enemies. It affects your success.
That is a given.
The bigger problem likes here, our frenemies.
Friend often harbour resentments and envy, when they see you rise.
They feel loss, and will betray and sabotaged your efforts and reputation much faster than your enemies.
Use a power move to disguise your real aim by hanging decoys in their face. By the time they work out your real aim, they realise you’re pulling the strings, and have already entered the arena and won.
To add more power, “thin-slicing” the people around you in the arena; listen to their words, their body language, and watch their expressions to pick up on all those emotional nuances that reveal their hand.
If you have this skill, you’ll pick up on things like odious and disingenuous intentions even though others believe they aren’t showing their hand.
Then you can see who is friend or foe without anyone realising it. You hold the power.
Make sure you do all you can to hone in your skills of observation.
If you have don’t enemies, you might consider reaching for your greatness and being okay engendering their insecurities and gaining some enemies.
The inspiration behind this post came from my interpenetration of two book:
- 48 laws of power, By Robert Greene
- Blink, by Malcolm Gladwell
To get to the next level one requires knowledge:
By far, coaches, events, and mentors increase the speed, and books are icing on the cake. But courses I don’t care much for today because SPEED is the game.
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